tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6141383639448060234.post7707851139494345568..comments2024-02-05T17:00:31.227+11:00Comments on Working Through It: Commonsense, victim blaming, staying safe or letting men off the hook. Or all/none of the above.Jackie Khttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06322613989851869319noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6141383639448060234.post-64511105936637551652013-10-24T20:18:32.838+11:002013-10-24T20:18:32.838+11:00I agree River, we get naturally more cautious as w...I agree River, we get naturally more cautious as we got older.I was pretty "I go where I like" when I was younger, although always keeping an eye/ear out for trouble. I sprinted away from a couple of bad situations, which is not in my power now!Jackie Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06322613989851869319noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6141383639448060234.post-71772269456645555372013-10-22T21:10:36.219+11:002013-10-22T21:10:36.219+11:00You are right in saying it should not need to be t...You are right in saying it should not need to be taught. Unfortunately, there will always be rapists. Just like there will always be drunks, addicts, scammers, murderers and so on.Riverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14794655013673748992noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6141383639448060234.post-21512133965151898832013-10-22T21:08:24.063+11:002013-10-22T21:08:24.063+11:00Andrew; of course it needs to be taught! Haven'...Andrew; of course it needs to be taught! Haven't you read newspaper articles about older females raping or otherwise sexually assaulting young boys? There was a teacher who involved herself with a young student when she should have known better, he was afraid to say anything. My grandson was taught safety tactics at a young age, for instance -be aware who else is in there when walking into public toilets. Scream if anyone tries to touch you etc. Riverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14794655013673748992noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6141383639448060234.post-33269192733863981612013-10-22T21:04:22.038+11:002013-10-22T21:04:22.038+11:00I've never been a drinker/club goer, so that&#...I've never been a drinker/club goer, so that's not an issue for me. On the other hand while I was aware of rape and that it could happen, I never worried, I went where I pleased, when I pleased, alone most of the time, and after dark too.<br />Now, it's a different story. I'm older, no longer as fast on my feet, I couldn't run away or scream very loudly for help if I had to. It isn't fear, exactly, that keeps me home after dark and away from places I once would have gone to without thinking. It's the knowledge that my body has limitations that it didn't have before. Riverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14794655013673748992noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6141383639448060234.post-56393999456518120022013-10-22T12:22:55.945+11:002013-10-22T12:22:55.945+11:00Very true. And while it's risky for anyone to ...Very true. And while it's risky for anyone to get too drunk, statistically speaking it's not a factor in most rapes. It's good that these discussions are being had constantly now - that's new at least.Jackie Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06322613989851869319noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6141383639448060234.post-65609364422709400292013-10-22T07:55:27.099+11:002013-10-22T07:55:27.099+11:00Brilliant post. And how I wish that there were si...Brilliant post. And how I wish that there were simple solutions which worked. Some of the myths which abound in our culture are dangerous. Stranger danger is an obvious one, which glosses over the ugly reality. Elephant's Childhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06650565833097914052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6141383639448060234.post-48199064635961823622013-10-22T07:29:46.884+11:002013-10-22T07:29:46.884+11:00Well said - agreed.Well said - agreed.Jackie Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06322613989851869319noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6141383639448060234.post-14421128516359188892013-10-22T07:27:53.857+11:002013-10-22T07:27:53.857+11:00I think parents are starting to teach sons about t...I think parents are starting to teach sons about the dangers of getting drunk, and how to avoid fights, car accidents etc. Of course many always have.<br />Yes your theory vs practical point - I think this is how most people (including me) tackle it.Jackie Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06322613989851869319noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6141383639448060234.post-6748425986104857682013-10-21T21:20:45.026+11:002013-10-21T21:20:45.026+11:00I now have two children of legal drinking age - on...I now have two children of legal drinking age - one son and one daughter. I give them both the same message - drinking to excess decreases your ability to make good, safe decisions, or in some cases, any decision at all. Alcohol first affects the frontal lobe which looks after the risk management part of the brain. And it is not fully developed until beyond 20. Telling my daughter to be careful with alcohol is no different to telling my son other than she is more at risk of sexual assault. It is not victim blaming, it is common sense. Boys who drink and then get into a car driven by a drunk driver without wearing seat belts and get killed? Do we think they we2re stupid? yes we do, but no one carries on about victim blaming in those circumstances. I want both of my children to be as safe as possible - that means not putting themselves in risky circumstances whether it is risk of sexual assault or anything else. Good on Mia Freedman for stating the obvious.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11314917380392468143noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6141383639448060234.post-88050660469817446702013-10-21T21:20:04.973+11:002013-10-21T21:20:04.973+11:00Do sons really get taught about the dangers and ho...Do sons really get taught about the dangers and how to avoid rape? I am not so sure it is either taught or needed to be taught. My theory is women should not have to be taught how to avoid rape. The practical is if I had a daughter, I most certainly would teach her how to avoid rape.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com